I wonder how people become cruel

I have had a very rough time dealing with my liver disease. I feel sick taking my medications and I still feel sick not taking my medications. I’m on all the standard liver treatments and medications. I also have panic attacks and I am suffering again from depression. I get medical care regularly and will continue with therapy and psych medications to help me cope with this horrendous liver disease process. I have been living in the ER and cancer center for my blood, and doctors appoints. But the worst thing that has happened to me was at a recent graduation party, a family member, commented while others were asking me how I was doing, "well you did it to yourself".  “I don't feel sorry for you and many more people feel like me". To those who are suffering from Stage 4 decompensated liver disease either caused by NASH or alcoholism this seems to be the attitude of many people. Most people don't comment. But she did. I have NASH..... yes I have been overweight for most of my life. Infancy, toddler, childhood, my 20, 30, 40, etc. So yes, I did it myself. But, I researched and only 25% of the worlds overweight people get NASH. So there has to be other mechanisms here going on. I have been a diabetic since childhood, but the testing standards were different then. I am heartbroken.

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  • McCartney Giannoni
    commented 2019-04-23 19:52:35 -0600
    What a crappy thing to say.. Chin up. How are you feeling now? You are not alone 🌷
  • McCartney Giannoni
    commented 2019-04-23 19:52:33 -0600
    What a crappy thing to say.. Chin up. How are you feeling now? You are not alone 🌷
  • Patti Tilden
    commented 2017-10-06 16:36:43 -0600
    I am so sorry that you have gone through this. You do NOT have to be overweight to end up with this disease, so please quit blaming yourself. I am slender and fear that I have it. We are in the testing process now. I have hypothyroidism, and that alone can cause it. I fight hard to keep my weight down, and take a thyroid med to no avail. I am tired all of the time, and have no life left. People have been cruel to me too, just by seeing my health decline. It is THEIR problem to be so cruel, NOT yours. I think that it scares them as it reminds them of their own mortality and frailty. Consider the source, and make sure you have supportive friends and family; HARD I know. I only have ONE friend in my life and my family has basically abandoned me as they think I make things up, and do not take me seriously. Like I WANT to live like this.

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